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1.
VIVA HARTFORD! Produce a television show
that would feature all the great things
the City of Hartford has to offer.
2. A man that would love me and my
children.
3.
Acquire real estate
4.
Develop “Little Red Biker Chic” ( a
cartoon character).
That was it,
for lofty goals since here I was a
single mother of two boys, working 9 to
5 , going home , cooking dinner and
helping with homework from Monday to
Friday, day in and day out. ¡Que vida!
But it all changed when I decided to ask
for what I wanted. Things started
happening, I met Jose Vega. We started
talking about the idea for Viva
Hartford. I met Iya Tucker an artist and
graphic designer, Brian Libert
photographer and videographer. My
brother Danny designed the Viva Hartford
logo which I put right next to my list.
With absolutely no experience Jose Vega
and myself spent many late hours after
work learning to edit and just plain
being frustrated when after many hours
of this we would loose all our work
because the editing equipment at
Hartford Public Access would just freeze
and we had forgotten to save! That was a
very hard lesson to learn. Save! Save
damn it! Que dolor de cabeza…….
Meanwhile, I remained focused on my
other lofty goals, item number 2 for
example: The “Man” that would love me
and my children. I bought “How to Marry
a Man after 35” which a Harvard MBA
wrote based on a business and marketing
plan , “He is not that into you” which
helped me not to make excuses for men
(we women make too many excuses and we
get in denial when men treat us badly)
but that is another article. My
girlfriends told me, “Joyce, you are
going through men like a “conveyor belt”
when they would see me out on the town
with a different man. I was on a
mission, that was nothing because those
had passed the first coffee date
screening , I would know in 5 minutes if
I would go out again. My girlfriends
would tell me, “There are no men out
there!”, I told them they were wrong;
first you have to think ABUNDANTLY and
that it was a numbers game and make no
excuses. No excuses when they call you
only once a week or when they feel like
it, no excuses when they don’t want
children in their lives, no excuses when
“They are not that into you”, you go
onto the next, why waste time with
someone that doesn’t make you laugh,
doesn’t makes you feel sexy, doesn’t
respect your independence and just
doesn’t want a monogamous relationship ?
NEEEEEXXXXXXT conveyor belt time!
Looking back I have to laugh. It was fun
actually.
I did not keep count but it felt like a
hundred plus cups of coffee and about 50
second dates, I met Dan. Dan was into
me! Dan called me everyday, did not mind
when I had to postpone going out because
I had to go film and edit VIVA HARTFORD,
he was funny and super sexy. Eventually
he met my boys and they got along! And
he had the same relationship goals I
had.
Meanwhile Viva Hartford was taking off
and we were nominated and awarded the
2008 Governor’s Distinguished Advocates
Awards in film. So on April 9, 2008 Jose
Vega and I myself stood on the podium at
the Legislative Office Building to
receive this award alongside Hollywood
Actor Gene Wilder, Pulitzer Prize winner
Joan D. Hedrick and other distinguished
contributors to Art and Culture who were
also being honored that evening.
Items 1 and 2 on my list had become a
reality; VIVA HARTFORD was being awarded
and I was engaged. Soon item number 3
became a reality, in real estate it was
a buyers market and it became feasible
to acquire my first property so I did.
It was inevitable , it was on my list
which I kept reading out loud to myself.
Item number 4 is still in the works, but
I have no doubt it will happen . I
crossed out 1, 2 and 3 on my list. My
list is getting shorter, soon I will be
making a new one.
By the end of the month I will be
married, I just moved my college bound
son to one of my properties, Viva
Hartford is going digital being viewed
in Comcast…….
I would have never imagined this before
I made my list and asked the “universe”.
You know what to do………GET GOING!
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Joyce's Bio
Joyce
Bolaños has over 12 yrs management and program
development working for Louis Vuitton Malletier and
the St. Thomas-St. John Chamber of Commerce and
currently as the Co-Host of VIVA HARTFORD! A
Cultural, Arts and Entertainment Hartford Public
Access Television Show.
Joyce Bolaños was born in Peru. Her family moved to
St. Croix, U.S.Virgin Islands and eventually settled
in Guaynabo, Puerto Rico where they still live.
During her high school years Ms. Bolaños represented
Puerto Rico as a member of their National Fencing
Team and traveled extensively throughout the
Caribbean, South America and Europe in International
Fencing Competitions.
Ms. Bolanos commenced her studies at Muhlenberg
College in Allentown, Pennsylvania and graduated in
Political Science and Marketing from Interamerican
University in San Juan, Puerto Rico. After college
she took a year off and lived in Paris, France to
practice the sport of Fencing. Ms. Bolanos returned
to the islands and settled in St. Thomas, U.S.
Virgin Islands. She currently lives with her two
sons, Andres and Michael in West Hartford, CT.
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